get some of my email though.? only difference to my wife's account - she does not have Connect using my LAN selected.

I can't say for sure, but recently many people have been bombarded with spam that fits this description. Even with filters, one day I had more than 900 of them! Be very careful and don't open any attachments with them. If you look carefully you can tell whether or not they are truly from e-mails you've sent, or whether they're spam.